My two oldest girls have an Instagram account, and are complete social butterflies.
They take pictures of themselves, their friends, and food; you name it, and they share it with their friends.
I’m able to monitor their accounts because I see every picture they post.
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It is because of the parents..
Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullaah) said:
“How many people have caused misery to their own children, :
– the apples of their eyes,
– in this world and in the Hereafter,
– by neglecting them,
– not disciplining them,
– encouraging them to follow their whims and desires,
– thinking that they were honoring them when they were in fact humiliating them,
– that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them.
They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter.
If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.”
[Tuhfat al-Mawlood, p. 146]
Training is required for many jobs- a class, a workshop, an internship.
For parenting? We aren’t even given an instruction manual!
What is effective parenting? I do not have all the answers, and I make my fair share of mistakes- just ask my children.
But I do want to share with you some things that I have learned over the years.
My 10 Tips and Techniques for Effective Parenting:
Source : Agencies / 29 Apr 2014
The act of perfoming Hijama is a Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad صل الله عليه و سلم and it is extensivly reported in a wide collection of authentic ahadith. Its practice is strongly recomened and emphasized in a number of narations. The practice of Hijama forms an integral part of Islamic Prophetic Medicine.
Hijama was a common practice of the Prophet Muhammad صل الله عليه و سلم and his companions for the treatment of a range of ailments as well as a form of body maininance and health promotion.
What is Cupping or Hijama
Hijama or cupping is a safe, non-invasive and economical way of curing and preventing many diseases. Though Chinese use of this method was limited to certain medical complications like lungs infection, colds, to treat internal organs’ disorders, joint pain, etc, the scope of hijama benefits is much higher than this limit.
The word ‘hijama’ means ‘drawing out’ in Arabic. It is now being recognized as an alternative medicine or alternative way of treating different diseases and bodily disorders. Modern medical science also endorses the various benefits of hijama and even encourages its practice in certain diseases.
In this non-surgical procedure, toxic or ‘bad’ blood is drawn out from the body. Certain ‘hijama points’ on the body are addressed to do so. On such selected points, blood is encouraged to accumulate and then sucked out by using a little vacuum system. The blood is made to accumulate on the surface of the skin where minute incisions are introduced on the skin; the blood comes out from the incisions and is collected in a cup from where it is removed.
When should one perform Hijama Therapy?
It is recommended that Hijama be practised on the ‘odd’ days of the Lunar Calendar. Further to this, the specifically prescribed days are Monday, Tuesday and Thursday. The optimum Sunnah days to perform Hijama Therapy are the 17th, 19th and 21st days of the Lunar Calendar providing these days coincide with Monday, Tuesday or Thursday. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) advised against practicing Hijama on Friday, Saturday and Sunday and very strongly advised against practicing Hijama on Wednesdays.
Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger (saw) said, “Hijama on an empty stomach is best. In it is a cure and a Blessing. It improves the intellect and the memory. So use Hijama with the Blessing of Allah on Thursday. Keep away from Hijama on Wednesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday to be safe. Perform hijama on Monday and Tuesday for it is the day that Allah (swt) saved Ayub from the trial. He was inflicted with the trial on Wednesday. You will not find leprosy except (by having Hijama) on Wednesday or Wednesday night.” [Sahih Sunan ibn Maajah (3487)
How is Hijama Performed?
Firstly we apply a moderate amount of oil to the relevant area. We use Black Seed oil or Olive oil. This helps to prepare the skin thereby increasing comfort once the cup is applied, it improves the seal between the mouth of the cup and the skin and in the case of Massage Hijama it also provides the necessary lubrication to allow the cup to move smoothly and freely over the skin. We begin every treatment by applying a cup – or several cups – to the appropriate points using a moderate suction. We use hand-held, manual pumps for this purpose as we believe it is by far the most accurate method of ensuring the correct pressure within the cup. These cups will remain in place for several minutes. In the case of Dry Hijama the cups would then be removed and replaced, adjusting the suction accordingly for the main treatment. They would then remain in place for between 5 and 20 minutes accordingly. In the case of Massage Hijama, one or more cups would be used to manipulate the skin and underlying tissues. A Sunnah Hijama Treatment also involves the release of stagnant subcutaneous blood from the point(s) being treated. This is done by making very fine scratches on the skin’s surface thereby allowing a small amount of blood to come through the skin. Once these scratches have been made the cups are then replaced and left in place for up to 20 minutes depending on the aim and nature of the treatment. The cups are finally removed and the area cleaned. Your treatment is complete.
Benefits of Hijama (Cupping)
Hijamais an ancient bloodletting technique that has been in use in many countries to treat certain diseases or bodily disorders. While the Chinese seems to have done a leading role in using this bloodletting technique to treat certain diseases, the Arabs have adopted it as a much-stressed Sunnah of the Prophet SAW. The Europeans were also doing cupping to treat many diseases. The difference between the Arabs or Muslims and others in doing hijama was not hidden since while believers were more interested to do hijama as the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) (without questioning about anything), others were doing it as a pure medical benefit.
The first and top-level benefit of hijama for a believer is the reward he or she will get, both heavenly and worldly, after following a stressed Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). Not only the believers but also anyone can openly observe or experience the benefits that are bestowed on the followers of the commands of Allah SWT and His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). On the other hand, when we look at this bloodletting technique from a worldly perspective, we can find hijama has many benefits.
It is noted that hijama promotes the flow of energy in the blood. It removes toxins and other waste material from the blood. It helps fasten recovery time and people recover from diseases much faster after hijama. Hijama is known to prevent many diseases and, therefore, can be considered one of the best preventive measures against many diseases. Moreover, it is also noted that hijama can help those people as well who are under some magic spell or who are under the influence of some evil beings.
Hijama has no side effects as long as performed properly. It is also worth noting that about 70% diseases or disorders are caused by the failure of blood to circulate properly in the body. Furthermore, we get sick or our body organs fail to perform healthily when our blood keep circulating loaded with toxins and other impurities. Unless the toxic waste is removed from the body or from the blood, not only we do not recover fast from a disease but also become easy victim to other diseases or disorder. Hijama is the best way to remove the toxic waste from the blood stream, and the results will obviously be a healthy and properly functioning body. We should never forget that this highly useful and recommended Sunnah of the Prophet SAW helps us in controlling many diseases such as infections, hypertension, circulatory diseases, pains, infertility, cancer, etc.
Importance of Hijama in the Divine Guidance
Instead of putting our words in favor of cupping, we must see the following ahadith that are enough to explain the importance of hijama.
“Indeed in hijama (cupping) there is a cure”. – Saheeh Muslim
“Indeed, the best of remedies you have is hijama (cupping)”. – Saheeh Al Bukhari
“Hijama is the most helpful procedure for human beings to cure themselves”.– Saheeh Al Bukhari and Saheel Muslim
The importance of hijama in the divine guidance can further be stressed by the following words which were related to the Prophet SAW on the night of Israa (ascension to the heaven) by angles: “O Mohammed, order your ummah (people) with hijama (cupping)”.– Saheeh, Sunan Tirmidhi.
The Prophet Muhammad صل الله عليه و سلم is reported to have had hijama perfromed on his head for migraine [Bukhari], on his foot after a sprain [Ibn Majah], on his neck [Abu Dawud], on his hip for hip pain [Abu Dawud] and between his shoulders for detoxification [Ahmed].
Abdullah ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet صل الله عليه و سلم said: “I did not pass by an angel from the angels on the night journey except that they all said to me: Upon you is cupping (hijama), O Muhammad.”[Saheeh, Sunan ibn Majah]
“The best medicine with which you treat yourselves is cupping, or it is one of the best of your medicines.” Or“The treatment you can use is cupping.” [Bukhari: 5371]
“Cupping is the most helpful procedure for human beings to cure themselves.” [Bukhari and Muslim]
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger صل الله عليه وسلم said, “If there was something excellent to be used as a remedy then it is cupping (hijama).” [Sunan Abu Dawud, Sunan Ibn Majah]